It’s been a long time since I did a post like this. If you are reading this, please do read this till the end. And I am not asking you to read this just so I can garner more views on my blog. I am writing this because I am totally helpless on this and this is the only thing within my power to reach a few people. If this can change at least one person’s life, then that’s more than enough for me.
Two things prompted me to write this post.
Those who are familiar with kpop would know this man and what I am about to tell. But for those who don’t, I will tell you. This is Kim Jong Hyun. He was initially a vocalist from the hit -5 member kpop group SHINee and he later became an independent vocalist as well. He is an excellent vocalist and performer. He has garnered fame in his country as well as internationally. There is no doubt about how talented and amazing this man is. Two days ago, I read the news that he suicided. He was suffering from depression. He felt he wasn’t good enough and is not performing to his expectations. In the end, he sent a goodbye message to his sister and killed himself.
What could go so wrong in bringing such a talented man to think like that? Have we ever thought?
Another thing that later got me thinking was the reason was from this video that I saw on this tweet from UNICEF’s official page. It’s about the conscience that we show online in our social networking community. This is the link-
We know of Kim Jong Hyun’s story. But there are so many more countless stories about so many people.
Depression is taking over all of us. Some people might be suffering from actual clinical depression and not realise it. Eventually it takes a toll on them and they end up suiciding. Imagine how many countless talented, smart, and wonderful people might have killed themselves with these dark thoughts? Imagine how many families could have lost people that mean so much to them. Why is this happening? You know what is the worst part? It’s that a lot of people could have healed and broken free from this depression if they had just talked to another person. Despite having big families, friends and loved ones, how does countless people end up with Noone to talk to?
Our world has gotten bigger. We see and experience so many things from all over the world. We can’t all succeed at everything we do. Sadly, there is so much competition in this world. Be it studying in school, at college, at work or at home even with your siblings or outside with your friends. Everyone strives to be the best. In fact the competition has gotten so strong that if you don’t win, then it’s like it’s not even worth living.
Why are we thinking like this? Please understand that not everyone can be the best at everything. But never think you are a loser. Everyone has something they are good at. You work hard at it. Try your best. If you falter don’t lose hope. Try again. If you find yourself sad, talk to someone. Let them know. Don’t try to live in a shell like that. You cannot know how much better you will feel just by talking. You do not know the good it can do for you.
It’s not that we do not know about the existence of depression. But it’s our lack of awareness. We should build our awareness on it. And help each other.
Another thing I wanted to say is about the social conscience over the Internet. Be it someone you know, a random stranger, or a celebrity. A lot of people do not even think twice before posting harsh comments online. You will understand that if you watch the video in the link. Before you post that comment, think about how it might make that person feel. They might be right or wrong about something, but please think a moment before you start commenting. You do not know what that person has been through or how their lives are or what they might be going through. Posting a comment online can be just a 5 second thought process for you. But it might be ruining 5 hours, 5 days, 5 weeks, 5 months ,5 years or even that person’s whole life.
It’s sad but I have noticed a lot of people who talk to each other frequently online but don’t care to give a glance in person. How has our world shrunk into smartphones and the Internet? Please take some time to look up from your phone. I am not going to say that I don’t spend hours on my phone. But from now, I will decrease it. After all we should correct ourselves first and then others.
We all know this book and TV series. I have read a lot of reviews about this and heard about it from my friends. Some reviews and people feel the protagonist was a drama queen. That she just found even the smallest of things unbearable. But have we ever thought how so many big and small things could have gotten her like this? Depression is no joke my friends. I understood that after Kim Jong Hyun’s death. Recently kpop boy band, BTS started a campaign with UNICEF called “Love Myself”. Whenever they talk about it in interviews, they talk about the importance of loving ourselves first and then others. I think that is something that we should all ponder on. Love yourself. You are amazing. And you need to be convinced of that first before thinking about others. Beleive in yourself and stick to what you guys Beleive in. It matters people.
There are different hotlines not just for suicide but many things. Many of you are from different parts of the world. Please share this kind of information. It could save a life.
And to the people who read till the end. Please don’t just read and go. Share this information. I am not saying you have to share my post. You can write one of your own or you can let people know however you want or you could just help someone who you know is suffering.
We need to stand for this cause together. Be it someone famous or someone who is not, we do not need another Kim Jong Hyun. . Talk to each other. Help each other. And live.